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·To maximize the chance of getting the desired outcome, rather than ensure the opposite.
And while I have no clue who you are, maybe aside from my earlier mentioned personal experience as well as that fact that I’m a lawyer who deals with disputes and negotiations for a living, just briefly review even the most basic webMD understanding of dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder:
“Narcissists may do whatever it takes to get what they want. They generally don’t feel compassion and can’t connect intimately with others, even the people who are closest to them….
Take these steps to handle a narcissist:…
Watch your wording. Narcissists don’t take constructive criticism well. Try to make comments in careful, positive ways.
Stay calm. Try not to react if they try to pick a fight or gaslight you (making you doubt your own reality). If they lash out, think of them as a 3-year-old who feels rejected because their parent sets a bedtime.
What Not to Do With a Narcissist:
Certain things may trigger problems with a narcissist, so it’s best to avoid them.
Don’t argue or confront. It’s best not to confront a narcissist directly. As difficult as it may be to constantly tiptoe around them, it can be better to manage their need to feel in charge.
Don’t try to direct them. Narcissists like to have control and often fear losing it. Efforts to lead or instruct a narcissist will often fail.
Don’t expect them to see your point of view. Narcissists don’t like to admit when they’re wrong or that they’re unlovable, so trying to make them see things your way could backfire.
Don’t expect deep, meaningful communication. Narcissists have very little empathy, so honest, heartfelt communication often doesn’t get through and can even create an angry outburst or shutdown response.
Don’t go over past issues. Don’t try to make them see a long line of behavior dating back years -- or how they’re just like their father, for example. Instead, stay in the present when you express requests or hurt feelings.
People with narcissistic personality disorder usually don’t change, so keep that in mind.“
