How much rent has the BIL been paying you? If zero, that was the start of the problem...
I agree with some people above who cap visits at 3 or so days. Sadly my wife is from a culture where month-long visits are the norm -- it is not visiting, it is freaking going to live there... I just don't get it, especially when travel o/ from is only a single 9 hour airplane flight -- it's not like it is a two month journey each way. The past 3 years it has been my wife taking our young son to visit her parents; the first time it was for over a month. I kept requesting a shortening of the visits, as I miss a lot of time watching my son grow up. They just left this past week for a visit; it is down to three weeks now. But it is a one-way street -- no way do I want her mom visiting and staying at my house that long. We have to entertain her, alter our daily routine, etc., and then she complains she feels like a prisoner (she doesn't speak much English and we live in the suburbs, so she mainly sits on a computer reading news sites all day).
No winging it this morning I threw him out.
Then I told him you have until Tuesday to get all of your stuff out of my home.
Threw him out?
Uh, no you haven't. You threw him out but gave him until Tuesday(technically Wednesday am for trash day).
I told you he would be nice for while and then revert back to old habits.
I told you he was a professional moocher and wouldn't give up willingly.
I TOLD YOU.
Maybe its my age but human nature isn't such a mystery to me anymore.
What is a mystery is why people don't get it.
He will come up with some scam to stay. Many options here but my guess is he will work the pity angle on his sister(your wife).
He can work any angle he wants to it just is not going to work.
All due respect, it worked for 8yrs, so you're not convincing him at all.
You haven't come nearly far enough to match his guile. You just haven't. He's better at it.
You know they say never get down in the mud with pigs? You just get muddy and they like it?
Here's the deal. You HAVE to get down in the mud. You have to get so muddy he thinks YOU look dirty. AND you have to show him you like it too.
That is the only way he'll get the message and not come back.
You're the beginner, he's the pro. And he knows it.
As an aside, you know why a lot of casinos don't care about card counters anymore?
Because you've got a lot of newbies who think they just have to learn a simple thing and then its easy street.
Fact is though, most card counters fυck it up. They either let their emotions get the better of them and abandon the effort, or literally don't follow the process to make it work. Either way they end up losing anyway.
Casinos found out that human nature gets the better of nearly everyone.
Your BIL is the Casino, and knows the house always wins. You're the newbie card counter with a plan to beat it, except it won't work. He knows you're going to lose until you get tough and go pro. Then he'll move on.
I'm on your side. I hope it works.
Just saying folks like this don't change their spots.
Be aware he may come back.
He may try to get into your wife's good graces and test the waters.
They say time heals all wounds. He knows this. He will take advantage of it.
If it all works out, that's great. Truly.
You deserve to be done with this shit.
... in-laws ... went through our bedrooms, personal files, file cabinets, checkbooks, everything...all while we were out of the house.
I have to say, this kind of over use of acronyms worries me.
That is taking things too far if you ask me. 😁
The bar scene here is disturbing... you were just being friendly to another patron, and he threatened you? Your brother in law is in need of the boot. Your wife is an enabler..this is a health and safety issue now. He’s got to go.
