Tipping culture in the USA

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I think what has tipped the scales (pun intended) is that every eating and drinking establishment--from Starbucks/coffee shops to self-service / order-at-the-counter eateries--has implemented tipping as a routine part of the paying process. Even drive throughs. It's absurd. And the resentment has spilled over into the rest of the restaurant industry.

While the oft-quoted excuse that a non-tip based / salaried EU-like system would result in higher costs being transferred on to the US consumer, I think that's a load of BS... non-US dining (whether it's casual or fine) isn't any more expensive...somehow every other country is able to manage a system where the salaries of food service employees aren't transferred onto the consumer.

--AND...while this thread is about tipping, I think an inherent part of the discussion is about food quality, and the quality of the MAJORITY of food in the US food industry is ABSOLUTE SHITE. It's all Sysco, US Foods, PFG...they all literally serve the same mass-produced crap, from the feedlot beef to the massive pesticide/herbicide treated vegetables, and that is almost everything in the US food industry save some smaller restaurants and fine dining.

People in the US don't care about quality, they care about quantity and 'bang for buck.' Take a look at the quality of food in our public school system...it is literal gas station food (US GAS STATION that is...I've eaten at nicer gas stations in France than almost every chain restaurant in the US.).

I live in Iowa. The number one pizza in the state is Caseys. It's a gas station. Because every small town has one, and no one wants to cook, and it's cheaper than dirt. [not a coincidence that Iowa has the fastest growing cancer rate in the US]

The standards for food quality in this county are abysmal.
 
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I tip guys that deliver furniture or appliances to my house. Generally $10-$15 to each guy (haven't had a woman deliver furniture/appliances yet). Years ago, when I was in between full-time employment, I delivered washers/dryers, stoves, refrigerators for a couple of months. Worked my butt off. Really appreciated getting a small tip at the end of the delivery.
 
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The standards for food quality in this county are abysmal.
Wow, that's a big call!
Maybe some of your fellow US forum members can recommend some good eateries to restore your faith. It'll also give me some idea of where to eat out when I finally make it over there 😊
PS- I loooove a good American barbecue (ribs, brisket etc)
 
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General food standards for mass consumption...there's good food if you have standards or the patience to cook.
The American diet is high is refined fats and highly processed carbs...it's great to have some fantastic brisket or a delicious smash burger or some other hedonistic indulgence but as an occasional treat not as a weekly option.
Anyway, I live in the Midwest, which is a restaurant wasteland unless you're in a major city center.
 
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I think what has tipped the scales (pun intended) is that every eating and drinking establishment--from Starbucks/coffee shops to self-service / order-at-the-counter eateries--has implemented tipping as a routine part of the paying process. Even drive throughs. It's absurd. And the resentment has spilled over into the rest of the restaurant industry.

While the oft-quoted excuse that a non-tip based / salaried EU-like system would result in higher costs being transferred on to the US consumer, I think that's a load of BS... non-US dining (whether it's casual or fine) isn't any more expensive...somehow every other country is able to manage a system where the salaries of food service employees aren't transferred onto the consumer.

--AND...while this thread is about tipping, I think an inherent part of the discussion is about food quality, and the quality of the MAJORITY of food in the US food industry is ABSOLUTE SHITE. It's all Sysco, US Foods, PFG...they all literally serve the same mass-produced crap, from the feedlot beef to the massive pesticide/herbicide treated vegetables, and that is almost everything in the US food industry save some smaller restaurants and fine dining.

People in the US don't care about quality, they care about quantity and 'bang for buck.' Take a look at the quality of food in our public school system...it is literal gas station food (US GAS STATION that is...I've eaten at nicer gas stations in France than almost every chain restaurant in the US.).

I live in Iowa. The number one pizza in the state is Caseys. It's a gas station. Because every small town has one, and no one wants to cook, and it's cheaper than dirt. [not a coincidence that Iowa has the fastest growing cancer rate in the US]

The standards for food quality in this county are abysmal.
Holy shite! I’m from Iowa. My two sons who never lived in Iowa moved to Iowa. My oldesthas a farm house and has farm animals coming out his ears. The younger moved to Iowa year ago, he is probably a pizza fanatic. I know he doesn’t eat Casey’s crappola though.
They are both probably bad tippers though to be on subject. I balance it out though. 33% is my usual minimum
 
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How is it possible that someone can be paid below minimum wage? Isn't that illegal? Here in Australia there have been cases of restaurant owners and convenience store owners who have been prosecuted for "wage theft".
Reg tips , I think 20 is min and I do about 25 . Now I do read my bill and make sure it's correct . Also no sure charges are included. I don't live in NYC now and in N.C tax is cheaper . I think we need to consider what it cost to live now .
Now delivery is a mess it's door dash , Uber eats and they tip garbage . It's about volume now and you don't even know who brings your food and order online . To add Iive in woods a but so I'm happy to get a delivery and yes I'm throwing them min 10 or more on top of what the app does . My son orders what on rare times we do and he is a miser cheap guy. Yet at one time he did delivery and said he did well 200 to 300 for 4 to 5 hours at night . Now where he delivered not where we live . He did city folk lol they tipped and he could do many deliveries.
We had conversation on tipping , I don't need anyone doing stuff to my food lol
Ps hello Steve hope all is well
 
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We are having a new spa/hot tub being delivered today. These are very heavy and bulky lumps to move. That means wrestling the old one on to its side with jacks and airbags, onto a dolly and wheeled out to the street, then putting the new one in, replacing the power outlet, filling it, putting the chemicals in and balancing it. It's probably going to be a five hour job for these two guys on a very hot and humid Texas day. We are certainly going to tip them even though the sales price is for 'total installation'. It's just the way I do business, tip for jobs well done.
 
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Yea Evitzee!

We believe in tipping our tradesmen who do a good job for us.

I navigate the tipping culture in the USA in this way. I don't "guilt tip" anyone, any amount, for service I deem unworthy of a tip. If they get their panties in a wad they should take it up with me. It'll verbally go hard with them if I disagree with them though.

You got one thing right Evitzee. It's stiflingly humid out there right now. I'm on a project to clean out and organize the shop and the task is whipping me down. Nobody's gonna tip me. Oh, Mrs noelekal will offer me a tip. "Save your money."
 
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With the FIFA World Cup now in progress, overseas visitors are having to familiarise themselves with local customs. But having to tip for a bottle of water? 😮
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/clyxgjykx7lo
Yes, it has gotten out of hand. When I visit Europe, it's refreshing not having to think about it, the price includes everything. All establishments should've implemented a WC price which encompasses tax & tip before World Cup and it would've made the experience a lot more seamless.

But you're traveling to a large metro city during World Cup, expect the prices to be increased like it's coming out of the Executive Committee members personal pockets and the envelopes of cash stopped flowing in. Watched the FIFA bribery scandal documentary the other night and realized the amount of money those guys imbezzled is only the tip of the iceberg.

If only the World Cup would be run by passionate fans rather than Bond Villains.
 
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Last Tuesday evening at 7:30 pm we had a 200 year Live Oak tree topple over in our front yard, narrowly missing one vehicle but trapping that vehicle plus two in the garage. Sent an SOS to my gardener and a friend in the neighborhood who both came over to assess. Not much we could do other than cut it up and haul it away. We called Doug the Tree Guy and by 8:30 pm he was there and after a brief discussion we decided on a cash price and he started cutting with his chain saws. Later his partner came over with a trailer and front end loader, along with his wife and two sons. Using car lights and lanterns for illumination they kept at it and at 11:45 pm they had the entire tree cut up and hauled away. That's service above and beyond the call of duty. When he came by the next day for payment I gave him a $150 tip. He thanked me and said he would give it to his sons. Good service deserves respect and recognition.

 
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Last Tuesday evening at 7:30 pm we had a 200 year Live Oak tree topple over in our front yard, narrowly missing one vehicle but trapping that vehicle plus two in the garage. Sent an SOS to my gardener and a friend in the neighborhood who both came over to assess. Not much we could do other than cut it up and haul it away. We called Doug the Tree Guy and by 8:30 pm he was there and after a brief discussion we decided on a cash price and he started cutting with his chain saws. Later his partner came over with a trailer and front end loader, along with his wife and two sons. Using car lights and lanterns for illumination they kept at it and at 11:45 pm they had the entire tree cut up and hauled away. That's service above and beyond the call of duty. When he came by the next day for payment I gave him a $150 tip. He thanked me and said he would give it to his sons. Good service deserves respect and recognition.

Scary as heck and very lucky. Maybe not representative, but from those photos, the root system looks surprisingly small.
 
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Last Tuesday evening at 7:30 pm we had a 200 year Live Oak tree topple over in our front yard, narrowly missing one vehicle but trapping that vehicle plus two in the garage. Sent an SOS to my gardener and a friend in the neighborhood who both came over to assess. Not much we could do other than cut it up and haul it away. We called Doug the Tree Guy and by 8:30 pm he was there and after a brief discussion we decided on a cash price and he started cutting with his chain saws. Later his partner came over with a trailer and front end loader, along with his wife and two sons. Using car lights and lanterns for illumination they kept at it and at 11:45 pm they had the entire tree cut up and hauled away. That's service above and beyond the call of duty. When he came by the next day for payment I gave him a $150 tip. He thanked me and said he would give it to his sons. Good service deserves respect and recognition.

Couldn't agree more. Here in Aus, that's what tipping is for. To recognise and reward good service.
 
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Good food, yes. But a whacking high income tax rate. In the end someone has to pay the freight to run the joint. Income tax, sales tax, real estate tax, other taxes, they are all in the cost of living mix of any location. Some places end up lower than others.
This provides a good summary of your point - State Tax Competitiveness Index
 
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Thanks for sharing that. Most interesting. There's also a link in that article to "Tipflation" and "Tipping Fatigue".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tipflation
Both are very interesting terms, and new to me at least. I definitely suffer from both, but I had never made the connection between the pressure we feel from the payment screen and the newer “tip me now, in front of everyone” philosophy, which often feels more like coercion than something left to the customer’s discretion.

I was also surprised to read that one of the earliest critiques of tipping dates back to 1916. Oh well - where I come from, we have a saying: “γηράσκω αεί διδασκόμενος,” which roughly means “I grow old, always learning.” Very fitting, for some reason…

Either way, I really love the international aspect of this wonderful forum!
 
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Either way, I really love the international aspect of this wonderful forum!
Yes, I love it too 😊
We learn so much from each other.