Hypothetically speaking watch purchase asking for a friend

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

Scooterino36
For my wife and I, budgeting is a major factor in our financial planning and hitting our life goals. We pool our salaries as well as our debts, so its pretty important for us to be in sync on inflows/outlows so we know whether we will meet our financial goals. Hiding a watch purchase seems impossible, she's eventually going to see it, and personally would kill the joy if I needed to hide it. My last watch purchase we debated at length, and eventually built it into our yearly expense budget.

So I think asking whether its "unethical and not cool", is looking for rationalization of the here and now decision, but I think the larger question to be asked is: what kind of financial relationship do I want/need with my significant other to achieve our life goals, and how does this decision impact that?

Well the dude plays landlord because his wife wanted to rent out a house despite him not wanting to. It’s the dude who cleans up overflowed toilets at 3am including the eight months he had one hand. The dude ate the bullet when his coworker screwed up and dropped 125lbs of steel on his fingers, he didn’t want to see someone get jammed up over a mistake. The dude could have got a bigger payout had he reported ineptitude was involved but wouldn’t do so at the expense of someone else, we all make mistakes, I have no interest in seeing someone get raked for one. The dude had plenty of rationalization and justification if he wishes, to this day a bone still sticks out of his finger to remind him of the thing, and will do so for life.

pdxleaf · Sep 17, 2020

Walrus
By the way, the dude sent me this. This is some as his fingers as they healed up. The tips were completely shattered. Almost lost one

HOLY OUCH, BATMAN!!!

I have hit my hands (mainly my left thumb) so many times doing remodeling. The worst is when you hit the same spot repeatedly. Hands really really hurt. That looks so painful I can't even imagine. It looks like passing out pain

I hope his wife says yes. Your friend earned it.

Just looked again. OUCH!

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

pdxleaf
HOLY OUCH, BATMAN!!!

I have hit my hands (mainly my left thumb) so many times doing remodeling. The worst is when you hit the same spot repeatedly. Hands really really hurt. That looks so painful I can't even imagine. It looks like passing out pain

I hope his wife says yes. Your friend earned it.

Just looked again. OUCH!

In all seriousness the dude has been hit by a car as a pedestrian and been in a few fights but it was the most excruciating pain he ever felt. He actually finished his shift that night and worked the next day but his finger turned purple and his wedding ring needed to be cut off. It was only then he realized how bad it was, he thought it would get better by itself at first

pdxleaf · Sep 17, 2020

Your friend is a badass. I knocked a front tooth out when I was younger (long story) and worked for another hour and a half but still took off at lunch.

Have your friend tell his spouse that the money is not really gone, it's just in a different "asset." Someday it'll be vintage...

p4ul · Sep 17, 2020

When I have received ‘extra’ money (tax rebate, lottery win, inheritance) I have taken some for me and the same for SO any left over into the household.
Honesty generally, and especially in a relationship is vital to me.

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

p4ul
When I have received ‘extra’ money (tax rebate, lottery win, inheritance) I have taken some for me and the same for SO any left over into the household.
Honesty generally, and especially in a relationship is vital to me.

SOB lottery and inheritance and here my friend has to get broken bones to get a little cash, I gotta speak to this dude he is doing something wrong

Scooterino36 · Sep 17, 2020

Walrus
Well the dude plays landlord because his wife wanted to rent out a house despite him not wanting to. It’s the dude who cleans up overflowed toilets at 3am including the eight months he had one hand. The dude ate the bullet when his coworker screwed up and dropped 125lbs of steel on his fingers, he didn’t want to see someone get jammed up over a mistake. The dude could have got a bigger payout had he reported ineptitude was involved but wouldn’t do so at the expense of someone else, we all make mistakes, I have no interest in seeing someone get raked for one. The dude had plenty of rationalization and justification if he wishes, to this day a bone still sticks out of his finger to remind him of the thing, and will do so for life.

Are you that dude?!

In all serious though, I’m not saying the dude doesn’t deserve the watch, I’m just giving my opinion on how I negotiate finances with my Significant Other.

Iceter · Sep 17, 2020

Only your friend can decide whether this is the right purchase or not. But if hiding or downplaying the cost of the watch is part of the plan, then i will throw this out there. Mark Twain once said, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything."

And just so you know I'm not preaching, I freely admit that I have a number of things to remember and that can be stressful.

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

Scooterino36
Are you that dude?!

In all serious though, I’m not saying the dude doesn’t deserve the watch, I’m just giving my opinion on how I negotiate finances with my Significant Other.

No I get you, I understood and this dude does the same tbh a situation such as this hadn’t popped up before. The dude has never received funds other than that which he worked or invested for. Had never been so badly hurt at work before, but with all other things the dude does pretty much as you do. Although he did give his wife some funds from a stock sale asking if she could invest for him as he is too busy during the 8a-4p hours and he is a bit afraid he created a monster as she made a few moves I wouldn’t have, they worked out but it was much too risky for my liking.

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

I meant his liking of course

SpikiSpikester · Sep 17, 2020

Dude absolutely deserves the watch, particularly if he feels its a tangible piece of compensation for the crap that happened.

But every relationship is different. What would happen if he told his wife how he feels about the situation & agreed the budget ?

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

Tbh knowing the dude like i do he will probably chicken out, get a couple cheaper vintage watches, give a little to a food bank in a town he works in, invest the rest, possible lose it, if he loses it he will curse himself for not just getting the watch. This is usually how things work out.

The Father · Sep 17, 2020

I would buy the watch and then tell the SO to get in the kitchen and make me a pie.

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

The Father
I would buy the watch and then tell the SO to get in the kitchen and make me a pie.

You haven’t tried her cooking, I do the cooking in the house.

The Father · Sep 17, 2020

Walrus
You haven’t tried her cooking, I do the cooking in the house.

Sounds like trophy wife time to me.

RonJ · Sep 17, 2020

The last watch I bought, I debated whether to tell my wife or not.
And, if I were to tell her, I was deciding whether to tell her before the purchase or after.

I ended up telling her before the purchase.

She just did not seem as enthused as I was about the purchase.
She thought it was a lot of money to spend on yet another watch.

She eventually agreed to the watch purchase but she wanted to spend the same amount of money on something she wanted.

So far, I think she has bought about 10 things of that value for herself and I still don't think she considers things "even" yet. 😀

.

Scooterino36 · Sep 17, 2020

Walrus
Tbh knowing the dude like i do he will probably chicken out, get a couple cheaper vintage watches, give a little to a food bank in a town he works in, invest the rest, possible lose it, if he loses it he will curse himself for not just getting the watch. This is usually how things work out.

I generally don’t advise watches as investments, but if the dude buys the SMP at a decent price, you can argue that it is indeed an investment and is redeemable cash at some future point.

SkunkPrince · Sep 17, 2020

GIve her a chance to argue it. Tell her you want a used 2254.50.00 which is a lot less than a new one!

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

RonJ-in-VA
The last watch I bought, I debated whether to tell my wife or not.
And, if I were to tell her, I was deciding whether to tell her before the purchase or after.

I ended up telling her before the purchase.

She just did not seem as enthused as I was about the purchase.
She thought it was a lot of money to spend on yet another watch.

She eventually agreed to the watch purchase but she wanted to spend the same amount of money on something she wanted.

So far, I think she has bought about 10 things of that value for herself and I still don't think she considers things "even" yet. 😀

.

Omg I know that isn’t funny but that is funny as hec.

Walrus · Sep 17, 2020

SkunkPrince
GIve her a chance to argue it. Tell her you want a used 2254.50.00 which is a lot less than a new one!

Well tbh I think he will be looking to buy used anyway. He doesn’t want to go crazy and since the majority of his collection is vintage used doesn't bother him at all.

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