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Ade117
·My wife has also never told me *how* to spend my money. She just spends it.
Hypothetically speaking watch purchase asking for a friend
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Scooterino36
·I dont understand Men who marry Women who then dictate to them how they will be allowed to spend the money they earned. I've been married for thirty years and NEVER have I told my wife how to spend her Money and she has never tried to tell me how to spend mine, I see these posts far to often and have to wonder how much of this is a joke???
Yea we don’t look at our separate salaries as “his” and “hers”, it’s simply “ours”. As such, when what we consider significant purchases are made, we discuss and agree. I can’t speak for anyone else but that’s how we operate our family.
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Dor_42
·My wife isn’t very supportive when it comes to big expenses, but I can see the logic behind it.
We are young (Early 30’s), we have a kid and planning on having another one eventually, we have a mortgage...
But I always find a way to reach an agreement, hiding things is never the answer - learned that the hard way when I lied to her about how I broke my hand while dirt biking.
I told her I was just cruising and a pot hole came out of nowhere when in reality I tried to jump it and crashed.
The first time she met someone that was with me that day the first thing that came out of his mouth was “I told him not to jump!” Oh the shit storm that followed...
It wasn’t about how it happened, it was about me lying to her.
Anyway, my 2 cents are, don’t hide it and try to reach an agreement.
If an agreement can’t be reached then go ahead and buy it but ONLY if you know for a fact that you not being completely irresponsible by doing it.
If buying the watch means no collage for the kids, not being able to fix your car if it breaks down, miss mortgage payments, if you’re going to be in any financial problem cause if the watch - don’t do it.
We are young (Early 30’s), we have a kid and planning on having another one eventually, we have a mortgage...
But I always find a way to reach an agreement, hiding things is never the answer - learned that the hard way when I lied to her about how I broke my hand while dirt biking.
I told her I was just cruising and a pot hole came out of nowhere when in reality I tried to jump it and crashed.
The first time she met someone that was with me that day the first thing that came out of his mouth was “I told him not to jump!” Oh the shit storm that followed...
It wasn’t about how it happened, it was about me lying to her.
Anyway, my 2 cents are, don’t hide it and try to reach an agreement.
If an agreement can’t be reached then go ahead and buy it but ONLY if you know for a fact that you not being completely irresponsible by doing it.
If buying the watch means no collage for the kids, not being able to fix your car if it breaks down, miss mortgage payments, if you’re going to be in any financial problem cause if the watch - don’t do it.
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SkunkPrince
·My exwife never valued things, only experiences. But, when I worked extra for $2000, she said OK, you earned it, buy what you want. That was my first modern Omega.
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kkt
·Let’s just say a someone you know broke some fingers at an old job that required a couple surgeries. Fortunately this person only lost about 10% use of a couple fingers. Anyway workman’s Comp offered this person some money to shut up. The issue is a little more complex as this person may require another surgery but that part has been worked out. So anyway if this poor slob I’m talking about really wanted an smp. It’s kinda his grail and if this guy used some of that money to purchase an smp without telling his significant other would you consider this guy to be unethical and not cool? The guy isn’t a bum or anything he works and does other stuff, can’t do what he used to do because of the hand issue but worked things out despite himself. I am just asking for a friend as he said something about the devil and an angel whispering in his ear at the same time, not sure what he meant of course.
It really depends what your, ah, friend's relationship with his significant other is. Some couples have accounts together and always ask the other if it's over $200 or something. Others have separate accounts for household and each individual's "fun" money, and they can spend their fun money without asking. How would your friend feel if his SO bought a piece of equally expensive jewelry without asking? How about if the SO received an inheritance or other windfall and didn't share it?
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Archer
··Omega Qualified WatchmakerYea we don’t look at our separate salaries as “his” and “hers”, it’s simply “ours”. As such, when what we consider significant purchases are made, we discuss and agree. I can’t speak for anyone else but that’s how we operate our family.
Same here, because my wife and I are partners in life in every sense of the word. Pooling resources has allowed us to have more and do more than if we had kept it all separate for the last 30+ years.
People often mistake asking the other person about a purchase as asking “permission” but it is simply about mutual respect.
We have some friends who keep their finances separate, and they argue about who’s going to pay for dinner between them when we go out...or they ask to borrow money from each other. It seems bizarre to me, like they’re afraid to be in it together.
I guess everyone has their own way of doing things...
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Walrus
·do married people keep separate accounts? We pool everything. I guess separate accounts would make some things easier. We do have some separate brokerage accounts but all profits etc go into one checking /savings account.
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bradurani
·When his SO sees the watch and asked him how he was able to afford that, what will he say?
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Walrus
·When his SO sees the watch and asked him how he was able to afford that, what will he say?
