Hypothetically speaking watch purchase asking for a friend

I mean a man’s gotta be able to know what time it is regardless of how disabled he is, right? I’d say this was an essential piece of technology and therefore exactly what the compensation is intended for.

Generally workman's compensation does not offer funds for pain and suffering, but, this case seems unusual, as you state,"workman's Comp offered this person some money to shut up." Personally, in my opinion, if the individual was offered this money "to shut up", it is his money to do with as he pleases, whether to buy a watch for himself, get jewelry for the wife, or invest in a mutual fund. As it seems no conditions were placed on the funds rewarded by the insurance company, I see no issues with any devil and angels on his shoulders, nor any ethical concerns. I hope your friends enjoys his watch and wears in good health for years to come.

Now to the second issue... not telling his significant other. If they aren't married, not a problem in my opinion, however, if they are married, it is another matter and many factors come into play. If they as a couple have pressing financial problems, I could definitely understand why the wife might get upset with her husband spending money on a luxury item. If all is good at home, then the wife might be happy for her husband to purchase a watch that brings him joy. My question to you is... why does he not want to tell his significant other? Answer that question and you'll have your answer.

My 2 cents worth.

I think he'll lose the other 90% of use of his fingers if he doesn't tell his SO.

And maybe something else....😉

I grew up in a very traditional, rural area, typically married at 19-21, kids by 25-30, church on Sundays, etc. Very very 'wholesome'.

After graduation and a lot of other stuff I worked in Los Angeles in tech and entertainment business for about 5 years, and the disparity between what is morally 'right' where I grew up and what is at least 'ok' in L.A. are so vast in some cases I would literally give up trying to tell friends back home about different things - they were often either shocked or outright disbelieved me.

My point in regard to your friend is; if they have a relationship where each is entirely private to themselves, he might be okay. In the hills I once asked a friend of mine "Where did she get the new Mercedes?" about his wife's new car, his response was to shrug and say "I gave her like fifty thousand for Christmas, maybe that's it," and go back to his video game - it was July.

Personally, would I keep it to myself? No. But have I seen not just instances but entire relationships - that actually worked to whatever degree - full of this kind of thing. So your friend really needs to ask himself, what does he value more: having his dream watch, or having his SO 'in on it' with him? I mean, it's ALWAYS fun to get a new watch. But, and maybe I'm a sentimentalist - it's a lot MORE fun to buy the watch of your dreams with the woman (or guy) of your dreams alongside.

That's my rambling two cents.

When it comes to marriage I rarely think about being ethical or cool haha

If he is concerned his wife wouldn’t be ok with him purchasing a watch he should ask himself this question: What is driving my concern, and what is driving hers?

Maybe she doesn’t actually care if he got a new watch. He’s just overthinking it. Maybe she already bought him one and so she’s trying to stop him from duplication. Maybe their financials aren’t great, or they won’t be great in the near future. Maybe they’ve got other plans that need some dedicated funds. Maybe she doesn’t want his desire for a watch to drive a poor settlement. Or maybe she is just controlling and mean, in which case he should buy the watch.

Bottom line, just talk to your wife.

I’m assuming he is not a focused collector, and thus the smp will not look indistinguishable from the others and thus can’t be snuck into rotation unnoticed....bummer. Worse bummer are the loss of finger functionality. Wishing him a speedy recovery and all the best.

Best thing to do imho would be to come up with a bulletproof argument to convince the SO...as this question has to be asked it thus appears a given she is not in support of his hobby...

For my wife and I, budgeting is a major factor in our financial planning and hitting our life goals. We pool our salaries as well as our debts, so its pretty important for us to be in sync on inflows/outlows so we know whether we will meet our financial goals. Hiding a watch purchase seems impossible, she's eventually going to see it, and personally would kill the joy if I needed to hide it. My last watch purchase we debated at length, and eventually built it into our yearly expense budget.

So I think asking whether its "unethical and not cool", is looking for rationalization of the here and now decision, but I think the larger question to be asked is: what kind of financial relationship do I want/need with my significant other to achieve our life goals, and how does this decision impact that?