Thanks for the great insight.
Interestingly, I bought an Evil Nina (mint condition) a couple years ago with clear numbers but would not have without them.
Fast forward to now and I picked up a Polerouter Sub, Gen III, which is also rare but at a lower price point as you noted, even though numbers are supposedly gone. Everything else looks spot on and it's in excellent condition, plus includes original GF bracelet with UM endlinks. The price ended up being below market value, too.
I also bought a Space-Compax last year without numbers, because the price was very attractive for its solid condition (and it turned out the numbers are visible with a loupe, so I got lucky, which rarely happens!).
I'd say my experiences align with your points. For me, if everything else looks correct without question for the reference and gen (assuming it can be assumed within reason without reference #), I do not have an issue, but will pay slightly less. And I will make more of an exception the rarer the watch and the stronger my interest.