Wedding advice needed...

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Jones in LA

·Apr 4, 2023·Not in LA anymore.

First of all, congratulations to all!

Personally, I've never heard of the 'in-laws buy a watch for the groom' thing. But of course, there is a tradition of the bride and groom each giving the other a special, sometimes valuable gift. One thing you could do would be to advise your daughter on what a great watch gift would be, and maybe even chip in a little to help her out -- even though you are likely footing the bill for the wedding, too.

 

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lillatroll

·Apr 4, 2023

Let him buy his own watch if he wants one. He already has your daughter, that should be enough. On the other hand, if you think he is getting a rough deal, buy him a nice watch as a sort of, sorry mate, hope this makes it a bit easier kind of thing.

 

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STANDY

·Apr 4, 2023

Your off the hook 😉


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rendo

·Apr 4, 2023·faux legend

I have heard of this before where the groom expected a watch from the bride's parents, but it was also customary for the groom's family to pay for the wedding in that culture. I would only do it if there's an expectation from the groom. If not, I would wait for another occasion.

If I had a daughter, I would want to buy a nice watch to the guy who continues to keep her happy after many years. It's your call of course.

 

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Aroxx

·Apr 4, 2023

My in-laws helped pay for my wedding. Since then my mother-in-law has given me 5 watches. Soon to be 6 I hope. 😗

As already mentioned, I’ve only heard of a watch for the groom in Asian cultures. Otherwise, your options are wide open.

 

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the_drunk_dial

·Apr 4, 2023

Is the groom into watches? If not, then buying him a watch probably isn’t a good idea.

 

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calalum

·Apr 4, 2023

All-Thanks for the feedback. To clarify a few items that were commented on, I will pay for a lot of the wedding costs, and while we haven't had the discussion yet my sense is that the groom's family will pay a significant amount as well. The groom is also very generous and gave my daughter a beautiful and substantial ring. And yes, on some level he is into watches (although not as much as my daughter, who has a sizable collection of vintage pieces thanks to my past sharing), and while he generally wears a Casio he does have a newish stainless Daytona (the one with the ceramic bezel) which he bought and is proud of. I was thinking of a classic time only vintage gold watch, maybe an IWC, a few of which I have seen here and found enticing, or who knows what else.

Maybe a WTB will be posted in the near future!

Best to all.

 

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pascs

·Apr 4, 2023

My son gets married this month and I'm giving him my watchco SM300 165.024. It was one of my first watches that I bought when coming on this forum and has many good memories attached to it. Its also what started me down the road of Omega and subsequently modded watches. The watch is in very good condition and I'm hoping he will appreciate the history of the SM300 and will add to the memories I have for it.

I think buying a watch for someone else is a very difficult thing because watches are such an individual thing to me, but hopefully if you buy your son in-law something cool and unusual then hopefully he will appreciate the feeling that you have put into it, as well as enjoying the watch for a long time to come.

 

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ErichPryde

·Apr 5, 2023·Seamasters Forever

Aroxx

My in-laws helped pay for my wedding. Since then my mother-in-law has given me 5 watches. Soon to be 6 I hope. 😗

As already mentioned, I’ve only heard of a watch for the groom in Asian cultures. Otherwise, your options are wide open.

I'd like to get to know your mother-in-law. 🍿

 

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mcemeren

·Apr 5, 2023

If you are up to gift something, gift a gold bar at equivalent value so he may then keep it or exchange it for something he likes. If you know him well enough, gifting a "you can't be wrong" keepsake watch could surely do nice too.

 

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ghce

·Apr 5, 2023

mcemeren

If you are up to gift something, gift a gold bar at equivalent value so he may then keep it or exchange it for something he likes. If you know him well enough, gifting a "you can't be wrong" keepsake watch could surely do nice too.

Thats what I keep telling people, you can never go wrong with Gold Bouillon.

 

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Taddyangle

·Apr 5, 2023

I find watches to be so very personal, that gifting one would be a challenge, as I would not want one to be obligated to wear, vs loving to wear a watch that was gifted. Over time, as you get to know someone, then much easier to figure it out.

 

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Olhenry56

·Apr 5, 2023

I didn't get a gift either of the two times I got married. Nice idea, though. I probably would do something similar for any future son- or daughter-in-law, but I would keep the spending limit kind of low... Maybe 10-20% of a month's salary.

Thinking out loud now, I guess it makes sense that the groom would get a nicer gift than the bride groom their respective in-laws since he usually pays for a more expensive ring for the bride. But even that is not always true. Depends a lot on the prevailing culture, the norms, and how much the couple adheres to them.

 

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Shabbaz

·Apr 5, 2023

On the day my best friend got married I gave him a iwc.

 

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calalum

·Apr 5, 2023

Yes, something like that beauty, or maybe in a gold case. Thanks for posting.

 

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flw

·Apr 5, 2023·history nerd

My in-laws got me a great bottle of whisky, and hosted the best party of my life. My wife got me a Rolex. They're all keepers.

 

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EuroDriver

·Apr 5, 2023

In the days of old (testament), the groom's family would pay a fortune for the bride's hand.

Now the bride's family has to pay?!?!

Obviously I have daughters. If the groom-to-be is worthy and lucky, I'll give him a job

 

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SC1

·Apr 5, 2023

Still voting for that sixer of Milwaukee's Best and the Discount Tires gift card.

 

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ghce

·Apr 5, 2023

I paid for my wedding after function and my new Chinese father in law paid for trying to drink me under the table ( unsuccessfully 😁)

 

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ExpiredWatchdog

·Apr 6, 2023

Asian inlaws. No watch.

My wife said "Yes"..... to all my purchases. I'm happy.