Wedding advice needed...

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calalum

·Apr 3, 2023

My daughter got engaged this past weekend. Great guy, etc. I feel like I have read or heard that the bride's family buying the groom to be a watch is a thing (or maybe just in the watch community?). Can someone enlighten me here? Thanks all.

 

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vbrad26

·Apr 3, 2023

I think some cultures it is tradition for the brides family to give a gift the the groom. Not necessarily a watch, but that is a popular choice.
But if there are no traditions or real obligations in play here, I think that is purely up to you all!

 

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Evitzee

·Apr 3, 2023

Just get the Patek!

I got nothing from my future in-laws, but my wife-to-be gave me a Speedmaster, that was in 1973. Still have both.

Edited: Apr 3, 2023

 

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pbook4g5

·Apr 3, 2023

I didn't get a watch from my in-laws, but that would have been nice! I did get a bottle of whiskey...

 

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NGO1

·Apr 3, 2023

Congrats. I’d get my future in-laws wrist-blings. It’s a meaningful lifetime present. I’d engrave a hidden message inside of caseback. For when I’m gone, they’ll still remember to do their chores.

 

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SC1

·Apr 3, 2023

I got a sixer of Milwaukee's Best and a $25 gift card for Discount Tires from my wife's family upon the announcement of our nuptials. Of course her family is from Flint MI and all auto workers so it sort of makes sense.
I have nothing else to add here.

 

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Watch my Whisky

·Apr 3, 2023

Big mistake

 

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Dsloan

·Apr 3, 2023

I've got a Korean coworker who told me that a watch was a pretty standard wedding gift for people in his generation. If you like watches and like the son-in-law-to-be, I say go for it.

 

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ghce

·Apr 3, 2023

In Chinese culture this is a standard wedding gift.

 

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Dan S

·Apr 3, 2023

I've never heard that. It's somewhat traditional for the bride's family to pay for the wedding but not a gift for the groom, so I don't think you should feel any obligation whatsoever. I do think it can be traditional for the bride and groom to exchange gifts between themselves.

That said, if you want to give him a watch, I'm sure it would be greatly appreciated.

 

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DoctorEvil

·Apr 3, 2023

ghce

In Chinese culture this is a standard wedding gift.

I'm Chinese Australian and I can tell you my in-laws definitely didn't get me a watch. And I know that they could have gotten me a nice one as they both have two tone Rolexes (FIL has a Sub and MIL has a DJ). This was before the current Rolex craze. Maybe it was because I'd only had my Seamaster Pro for a few years 😁

 

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txtchfn

·Apr 3, 2023

Wow. All I got from my in laws was a psycho.

 

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Cenzo

·Apr 3, 2023

I did not get a personal gift for my wedding from my in-laws. They were just pretty happy I took their daughter off their hands.

It took 25 years, but my wife did get me a Speedmaster for our 25th anniversary.

This is an actual Birthday card I got from the in-laws.

 

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Shabbaz

·Apr 3, 2023

I think the groom should buy you a watch!

 

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Pastorbottle

·Apr 3, 2023

Shabbaz

I think the groom should buy you a watch!

I’ll go one better…..he can buy me one too!😁

 

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UWG

·Apr 4, 2023

I got this Cosmic from my in-laws, knowing about my passion for Omega watches. That was in 1999. So, on it's way to be a vintage-vintage watch for me. At that time and still looking brand new.

 

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ghce

·Apr 4, 2023

DoctorEvil

I'm Chinese Australian and I can tell you my in-laws definitely didn't get me a watch. And I know that they could have gotten me a nice one as they both have two tone Rolexes (FIL has a Sub and MIL has a DJ). This was before the current Rolex craze. Maybe it was because I'd only had my Seamaster Pro for a few years 😁

Does seem to be very variable as to what's in and what's out but I know in my wife city there is even an expectation that you would supply an apartment, real crazy stuff.

 

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DoctorEvil

·Apr 4, 2023

ghce

Does seem to be very variable as to what's in and what's out but I know in my wife city there is even an expectation that you would supply an apartment, real crazy stuff.

Sounds almost like Crazy Rich Asians 😉

 

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DrmexicoII

·Apr 4, 2023

Wow... someone owes me a watch! Mind you they did pay for the wedding so I guess they could argue that's in lieu of watch giving.

 

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vbrad26

·Apr 4, 2023

I've got 2 daughters...I don't think I'll be buying two nice watches.........that aren't for me lol.
Especially knowing I'm more than likely paying for those weddings!