The Medical Profession and Me

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MD's are humans, with all their inherent biases and problems like everyone else. Why the advice in the first post is so good, to advocate for yourself. But not everyone operates this way when faced with a medical crisis, so everyone is different. Some just want the doctors to make all the decisions, and just tell them what to do - personality differences in how people deal with things.

Cheers, Al
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FWIW, per a 2020 Gallup report, ethics ratings for nurses and doctors are still higher than any other professions - https://news.gallup.com/poll/328136/ethics-ratings-rise-medical-workers-teachers.aspx. Looking at the ratings I don't necessarily feel bad for members of Congress, but how 'bout those poor car salespeople!

 
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Those numbers for Members of Congress look way too high...
 
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I think we have moved waaaay off track here!
I believe @Wryfox began this thread, and I chimed in in-kind, not necessarily as a cautionary against doctors, but as a motivational for people to be educated and involved in their personal medical care.
As I said, I had a couple of doctors who were shooting in the dark with vague information that I was not clearly articulating for them. It was not their job to know exactly where I hurt, nor did they know my personal history by which I sustained a serious injury- in fact I didn’t even know I had sustained a serious injury!
It was only by chance that a doctor chose to do a very basic test (an x-ray), rather than trying to overthink it, by which we discovered there was a serious problem.
The point here is that we are all responsible for our own medical care. Doctors are only as good as they information they have, and we are responsible for not only being as educated as possible on our physical history, but having the determination and will to get to the bottom of our problems and not take a single diagnosis or treatment as policy.
Both of my parents were doctors, both highly ethical and incredibly dedicated to the health and well-being of their patients. I resent anyone who paints with a broad brush about the medical profession- but do understand that there are some who don’t have the same level of ethics, or inclination/ability to go the extra mile for their patients (some physicians are spread incredibly thin as insurance companies have been dictating policy/procedures/treatments rather than doctors). These outliers in the field do taint the reputation of a very noble profession- which is unfortunate.
 
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I believe @Wryfox began this thread, and I chimed in in-kind, not necessarily as a cautionary against doctors, but as a motivational for people to be educated and involved in their personal medical care.

Yes, thank you.
 
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Update 10/18:

Mega reality check today.

I was at the hospital this morning for final tests to determine treatment. Naturally my future was on my mind, but I became distracted by a discussion happening with a woman in the bed next to mine.

She was having her chemo port removed.

Not because her cancer was gone, not because the chemo was over, but because she was done with it...she was giving up. She just wanted to die on her own.

She was alone. Nobody was with her. She had to call for a ride home.

The pain and resignation in her voice nearly brought me to tears. I imagined what had to happen up to this point to arrive at such a decision.

So remember guys, no matter what is going on your life, it can always be worse....
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I imagined what had to happen up to this point to arrive at such a decision.
My fiancée's cancer (Stage 4, endometrial) has given us a lot to talk about along these lines. The past few months have been harder and harder and we're struggling to find a treatment that works. We're not out of options yet and she promises me she'll keep trying until they tell her there are none. But there are bad days when I worry she'll throw in the towel because she can't bear it anymore. The treatment often feels worse than the disease. I don't ask her to keep going for me, it has to be her choice. We don't have kids, but she has a bunch of little nieces (plus one on the way) that mean the world to her, so I know seeing them grow up is her motivation. Like everyone else, I'd heard gut-wrenching stories of people wanting to die with dignity. And like so many things, it's easier (and harder, at the same time) to understand when it's under your own roof.
 
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My fiancée's cancer (Stage 4, endometrial) has given us a lot to talk about along these lines. The past few months have been harder and harder and we're struggling to find a treatment that works. We're not out of options yet and she promises me she'll keep trying until they tell her there are none. But there are bad days when I worry she'll throw in the towel because she can't bear it anymore. The treatment often feels worse than the disease. I don't ask her to keep going for me, it has to be her choice. We don't have kids, but she has a bunch of little nieces (plus one on the way) that mean the world to her, so I know seeing them grow up is her motivation. Like everyone else, I'd heard gut-wrenching stories of people wanting to die with dignity. And like so many things, it's easier (and harder, at the same time) to understand when it's under your own roof.

God bless you both, and a million prayers for your fiancee. There is always hope.