I think it was your heart tumbling out of your shirt that woke me up 😁
Writhing on the floor next yours buddy.
There is just some very cavalier advise above (and some just wrong) on how to negotiate a hobby with a partner. There is no “my money, my choice” in a marriage or “better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission”. It’s all about seeking and respecting the other’s input, even if they are completely indifferent.
No doubt. I tried to paint the ominous picture should the guy load up on expensive watches just because his wife-to-be doesn't verbally object, but I disagree with solutions that approximate his initial wish to have both the Omega and Rolex. If anything he should count his lucky stars he has the Omega and focus on the upcoming nuptials. Rolexes will be around for a long long time should he someday down the road find himself flush, and then should buy second hand just to show off his sensibility towards his hobby.
Wow this went deep. Ask yourself.
If you don’t buy the watch will you regret it for the rest of your life. Probably not.
If you do buy the watch will it lead to divorce in the near future. Probably not.
If you run into finically trouble will you be able to recoup all of the outlay. Probably.
The impression I get, and correct me if I’m wrong, is that if you do buy it, you’ll feel guilty about the expense and so won’t really enjoy the process. If there wasn’t a wait list and the pressure to buy right now, you wouldn’t. And that’s probably the answer.
Writhing on the floor next yours buddy.
There is just some very cavalier advise above (and some just wrong) on how to negotiate a hobby with a partner. There is no “my money, my choice” in a marriage or “better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission”. It’s all about seeking and respecting the other’s input, even if they are completely indifferent.
If what you're describing works for you that's great but I feel you have a narrow vision of what marriage should be like. It's perfectly fine to have a joint account and also each a separate bank account so you can buy whatever you want without asking permission.
But just the fact that you refer to it as “permission” is problematic.
just the fact that you refer to it as “permission” is problematic.
It's just semantics. Feel free to call it whatever you like. In any case, I'm not going to bore my wife with the details of why I'm buying this watch instead of that watch. Now if she shows interest, I'll tell her all about the watch but it stops there.
James ... you know I love you, but step back from the edge, please. None of us know anything about the OP, and it's really not our place to tell him anything about his relationship. You want to talk about your own marriage, please start another thread, so we can all ignore it. 😉
Not that it’s any of my business, but is she truly not interested, or are you assuming she isn’t?
You want to talk about your own marriage, please start another thread, so we can all ignore it.
Wow this went deep. Ask yourself.
If you don’t buy the watch will you regret it for the rest of your life. Probably not.
If you do buy the watch will it lead to divorce in the near future. Probably not.
If you run into finically trouble will you be able to recoup all of the outlay. Probably.
The impression I get, and correct me if I’m wrong, is that if you do buy it, you’ll feel guilty about the expense and so won’t really enjoy the process. If there wasn’t a wait list and the pressure to buy right now, you wouldn’t. And that’s probably the answer.
