A late goodbye to a great member and human allwoundup

I don’t know if many here recall allwoundup aka Wayne who lived on my coast in the U.S. but he sadly passed away as 2024 closed out. He was a father, a husband, a retired big finance dude an active member here. A very knowledgeable collector but most of all a great human.

I felt bad not saying anything but I kinda felt I should ask his families permission but since his passing was so close to the holidays I didn’t want to ask such a thing as they were really grieving.

We had become very good friends. Emailing, calling, seeing a show together and trading watches and, well Buddhist philosophy. It was bothering me today as I couldn’t remember what started our friendship. I had to go back to my pm’s but then it dawned on me. He posted this song in WRULT shortly after I heard this “newer” rendition and had begun playing it. I had to send him a pm of how is stumbled across it I think it was same as me just the YouTube algorithm. Anyway I was coming out of long covid at the time so I was home for a few weeks. He began telling me about his battle with bone cancer which sounded really unpleasant. It didn’t start off as that but got into his bones. I think being two sick dudes (his much worse than mine) gave us something to talk about. Fortunately we both ended up getting better, he actually beat the cancer, mine was just a wait till you feel better thing but he dealt with the chemo and radiation and beat it.

I remember one time he told me the chemo made him sick for three straight days, he couldn’t even hold down a sip of water. He talked about the thirst pain which I thought I knew what he was talking about but would not truly experience it for a while to come. He ended up in the ER on fluids. He actually broke a bone in his leg just because the cancer made it so brittle. He was on the couch wanted to talk to me but couldn’t due to his pain. I asked his wife what he was taking for that 10/20 pain she said he ran out of pain meds. I told her to call his doctor something wasn’t right a cancer patient who’s bones are breaking needs serious treatment. The next day a visiting nurse came and installed a pump for pain meds. I told him he was a tough son of a bitch. I had someone at work dealing with cancer they had that guy on a drug store of narcotics there Wayne is poppin Motrin.

He was a practicing Buddhist, I had been a Buddhist for a few years and my wife’s friend was writing a book about it. She had copies of Buddhist writings going back 700-800 years I was able to send him those a Waltham diver I picked up and some other things to raise his spirits.

Music was always a bond the different religion and politics made for interesting talk but music was the common theme. He had a couple decades on me but wasn’t “old” he had seen many of the bands I love live and in their prime. We got together for a show. He looked good and healthy. Then early last year I caught pneumonia ended up in the ICU as I didn’t know I had it waited too long for proper treatment. He reached out to my wife as I went 0-dark-thirty. The phone in my hospital room rung and it was good old Wayne. I was two days off five days on a ventilator and told him I know understood thirst pain. Cause when you can’t drink for more than a couple days it isn’t just a desire for liquids it actually hurts.

Anyway it was close but I made it. When I got home I called Wayne let him know. A couple months later his cancer came back. It came back viciously. Got in his spine. I had to step up the Buddhist writting and my wife’s friend finished her book I sent him a signed copy. Frig the whole time he just talked about beating it. He didn’t seem concerned. He asked me for some of my favorite writing from my faith which I provided. We made a plan to get together for a drink when he beat the cancer again. Then things changed for him. Have you ever been told you’re not going to make it? It’s very powerful to hear and no one knows how they will react until it happens. I will share this with you as I think it shows the kind of man Wayne was and knowing him he would not mind me sharing it. I received this DM
We had further talks but that’s all I’ll post. Some songs are better left unsung. I can just tell you it’s so sad a loved one or buddy goes out in an unpleasant painful way. Doesn’t seem fair. He was very well off could probably buy and sell me a few hundred times over but never did he act “above me”. The last thing I sent him, before he got real bad was a six pack of glacier water. I think it was the last laugh we had together. I have two watches he sent me carefully wrapped in a leather pouch. I still get bummed out about his passing. But I’m very grateful I got to meet him. May the four winds blow you safely home. Oh and the song that set it off

Here is two of the watches Wayne sent me and a copy of the book I sent him. Our friend wrote it, it is quite interesting and these two watches are prized in my collection.

I also gotta admit Wayne turned me onto the tedeschi band. They did Tangled up in blue when we saw them they were Wayne’s favorite and the SOB could get good tickets. Since they covered Dylan and the Dead a splendid time was guaranteed for all. I have pics somewhere of us “boppin” to the music.

Sorry to hear this news. I can’t say I knew Wayne or even spoke to him via DM, but what you’ve said about him is beautiful.

I often wonder when I click on an established members avatar and it says they haven’t been seen for a year or so - does that mean they’ve just lost their interest in watches or have they passed on?

Anyway, thanks for letting the forum know and farewell Wayne.

Yeah thanks I think in most cases it’s people just have a change in interest or find another outlet. That has happened to me a few times. Sometimes life takes you in a different direction but certainly in some cases members pass. We all act human and hold dumb grudges or make judgments on others decide we don’t like them (I include myself in that statement) but it’s kinda silly when you get right down to it. We are all walking around with this unknown expiration date, ain’t no time to hate, barely time to wait.

Peace Wayne

Well written tribute.