Ouch. I'll never forget the summer of 2011, when the same thing happened to me. It's a long road ... all worked out well, but it took a long time. You'll need friends, and a place to talk, with no judgement - just listening. PM me if you want. All good wishes.
Cheer up, you'll get over it. After a year or so of thinking all women are blood sucking bitches and avoiding any meaningful relationships, and generally behaving with a "I don't give a f*ck about anything any more" attitude, probably hitting the booze a bit too much, and driving without a thought of speed limits etc you will level out, find another partner to share your life with. And she will most likely be a better one than the first. At least that's my experience.
PS: If you're finding it hard, seek a support group. Talking it out and sharing it with others helps a bit and prevents you sinking into a really bad place.
Actually I’m hoping we can reconcile. Been married almost 16 years. It’s always so much easier for the one leaving. 2 kids 12 and 9 are devastated
It begins with a lot of soul searching and second guessing. What if I... I should have done... I should have been... These are all natural feelings. As men, we feel we need to be in control at all times. In my divorce there were factors beyond my control and that left me feeling a little helpless. We did go through counseling. I don't know if helped. Our divorce was amicable, so there was that. If you can't reconcile, hopefully you will remain friends. It will be easier for you and the kids.
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A divorce with young children in the mix is always going to be way harder to deal with than a divorce with no children involved. I know. I've done both.
Try to find out if she will consider couples therapy and if yes get a good referral and commit to several months of that. It is hard and expensive but it has saved my marriage (so far). Good luck.
Good luck, hopefully the relationship can be salvaged. Work at it. I can't speak from experience as I'm going on 46 years of marriage. Wifey lets me play with motorcycles and watches. She's a keeper.
My wife of twenty years left me because I failed to meet some conditions she set for me. We had two teenage daughters at the time and I told her she could have custody but I wanted visitation. I filed for divorce and told her to talk to me through my attorney. I never called her. After two years my daughters came to live with me by choice. I developed some male friends and we would go out drinking and meet women. Sometimes we would come back to the house and socialize some more. Another year past and one night when I came home I found my ex-wife naked in my bed. My youngest daughter had let her in. She told me she wanted to come home and she had made a mistake by leaving. I let her move back in and that was seven years ago. I didn't marry her again and will not. So my friend be strong and act like you are swinging the world by the tail. Don't call her. Get your body toned, buy some new clothes and get out of the house. If she doesn't come back at least you're on he road to recovery. Whenever you feel down look at your Omega watch then look in the mirror and say " What would James Bond do? ?"