Illogical regret

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That's a question I have for the more experienced collectors here: How do you handle the regret of not buying a particular timepiece that logically you know you shouldn't have bought?

Yesterday I stumbled over this La Magique on Catawiki: https://www.catawiki.com/en/l/69660385-omega-de-ville-191-8523z-men-1980-1989
Saw it an hour before the bidding closed.
Now it's not a model I have on my bucket list and I am at a point where I should probably stick to that, to make sure I don't spend a house on watches. It's also similar in style to a Junghans I inherited from my grandfather. And... I already bought three different watches this year. So bottom line: I shouldn't have bought it. In the end it went for 2.1k and I had my finger "on the trigger" until the last minute. Now, I am regretting not buying it and even lost some sleep over it tonight. So my question is: How do you handle the ones you let get away?
 
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Not much choice but to move on. Look for another if it was what you really wanted.
I think we all suffer the same affliction thinking that there will never be another when in reality nearly always there is another that may even be in better condition or a better price.
After contemplation you may come to the conclusion that missing out wasn’t a bad thing.
Sucks at the time though😉
 
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I have forgotten about all the ones that got away, something else comes along.
 
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A practical advise; continue following the same seller, I had seen several times the same watch coming up for auction for what the God knows reason.
 
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Ooof--I feel this pretty heavily, @harxi. I don't know where you are w watches, but early on, for the first several years, I'd get just devoured by a watch I missed--losing sleep, unable to shake it mentally, etc. A friend's a professional card player and eventually he pointed out that it was basically the same thing they experience, and the danger in cards is going on tilt, i.e. chasing not good plays to try to make the play you missed.

Eventually, I find myself letting go, like others are advising, but it does take time. I'm not sure there's much to offer that'll speed that process. You will find more watches; you will, somehow, even forget how much you sweat this one. But it does take time+some reflection, at least in my experience.
 
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Unless it is something super rare, watches are like busses, there will be another one in 15 minutes. Sit down and wait.
 
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A practical advise; continue following the same seller, I had seen several times the same watch coming up for auction for what the God knows reason.
That's very good advice! Thank you
 
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It's an object, that's all. Don't get too wrapped up in this hobby emotionally.
Oh ... That's easier said than done. Can you distance yourself from it?
 
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Ooof--I feel this pretty heavily, @harxi. I don't know where you are w watches, but early on, for the first several years, I'd get just devoured by a watch I missed--losing sleep, unable to shake it mentally, etc. A friend's a professional card player and eventually he pointed out that it was basically the same thing they experience, and the danger in cards is going on tilt, i.e. chasing not good plays to try to make the play you missed.

Eventually, I find myself letting go, like others are advising, but it does take time. I'm not sure there's much to offer that'll speed that process. You will find more watches; you will, somehow, even forget how much you sweat this one. But it does take time+some reflection, at least in my experience.
I am four, for my budget, bigger purchases in. Although to be honest I have been following watches since I was 15. Got my first Festina Tourchrono from money from my paper route. It's just that lately I am making enough money to actually make more expensive purchases.

I've made the mistake you talk about before. My Bulova reissue of a classic vintage regularly stares at me. Currently it's somewhat under control 😁
 
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Honestly, if you had bought that watch for 2.1k, I think you might have regretted it later. ::stirthepot::
(Photo of 1980s quartz watch attached for posterity.)

What really bothers me is when there is some sort of technical glitch that affects my ability to bid electronically when I wanted to bid. With online auctions, it happens pretty frequently to me.

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Oh ... That's easier said than done. Can you distance yourself from it?
Yup, they are just watches. I've missed out on many over the years, but I always remember that there are plenty more for me to find.
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From experience, none of the "rare" pieces are as rare as you think. Another one always comes along.
 
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Honestly, if you had bought that watch for 2.1k, I think you might have regretted it later. ::stirthepot::
(Photo of 1980s quartz watch attached for posterity.)

What really bothers me is when there is some sort of technical glitch that affects my ability to bid electronically when I wanted to bid. With online auctions, it happens pretty frequently to me.
I think that is part of the predestination paradox.

There is always that nagging doubt. There was a bunch of landeron parts (no cases) I never got around to pulling the switch on. They sat in the watch list for weeks if not months. One day the listing ended. No bids nothing. I left it in the watch list till it rolled off the end.

Another lot came up with some cases and what I though were bezels. Turned out they were actually shipping rings. I am still working trough this mess of stuff. All bits and peices none of what fit together.

Would I have been happier with the first lot of scrapped parts, what had a part shown I will need down the road? If I did not get the second collection of parts (what now occupies my time.) would I be regretting it?

Watches and clocks are made by the Billions. Granted some variations are few. There are enough for every person on this planet (over 8 billion now) to have more than one. With millions made every year.

So why is it that the one that gets away is the one that we regret?

The farther things in the past are, the more fixed they seem to be. A rock may be millions of years old. Of course we can chip it grind it shape it and form it into something useful. We can even grind it up and eat it. But it is still a rock. One might even say the same for a tree. Yet a tree can take the minerals from a rock and create itself. Over time the tree can also become a rock. There is even a possibility that some of our corporal form may become a rock. Or have been part of a rock or a tree.

What irks me are some of the things I have lost over the last 30 years. Little things. Like the engraved back that came with my Speedmaster professional. The back currently on it is from a different model. Does not make the watch any less likable. I have had it 30 years. It needs a service. I could have put it in for service and a long wait. Or I could have done what I did and continue where I left off 18 years previously. Many of the other watches are similar. I could do a simple clean and lube of the speedy myself. There is no real need to rush into it. I used to wear it daily. Now I have other watches what I have more fun with and am willing to risk. I suspect there will always be someone who can service the speedy for a price.

When I did get into the drawers after 18 or so years of indifference. I found most of a T-17 watch. Did I have more of it at one time? Was the small part I now so desire given away as a gift to friends during the steampunk craze? Did I give the speed master back away because it was engraved? I was always protective and mizerly (still am) with my watch parts.

As much as I enjoy the steampunk scene. I find the use of watch parts in art to be sickening in a way. So I did not want to part with something and then regret it. Now I wonder what was in those bags of rusted and broken floor sweepings?

When one does see what others can do with such things it takes the temper off the regret.

This is not to say I do not check online auctions daily or even multiple times a day. Most of what excites me is beyond my current means. Sure it would be nice if I do get a low ball bid. I have others that were just as exiting before they went into the to do pile. These are just as enticing as they were when acquired. Were they offered again, such Items would be high on the want list.

In some ways it becomes more about the rabbit hole than the rabbit one went in after.
 
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Slow down and consider what it is you really want. Overall I like my collection, but there are certainly elements within it that I (time challenged and perpetually jet lagged) just snapped at. The piper will be paid at sale.
 
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Thank you guys all for the understanding and tips.
I can't talk with family and friends about this, since they don't take me seriously when I say stuff like that 😁.
Was nice to hear viewpoints from other watch geeks.
 
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One of the great joys of life is anticipation of the things we desire, the trill of the hunt as it were.
At the moment of conquest we hit peek euphoria, from then on it’s a downhill slide.
As it’s only when we have it, do we realise that it isn’t perfect and has downsides, with familiarity notions like, complacency and even contempt can form.
We may well know of various faults but the thill of the hunt blinds us or at least blurs the lines, lessening the flaws, as we charge on to aquire our holy grail.
This blinkered approach keeps up focused on the prize, and once it has been won, the less desirable it becomes, this is what then drives us on to our next quest.

All this is an evolutionary process, it’s what drives us as individuals and as a species on.
If we just sat down satisfied with our conquest, not bothering to seek bigger and better opportunities, we’d still be sitting in the dirt, grunting away, throwing our shit at one another, whilst banging rocks together. (Yes we all know some folks that still are…they are what’s known as politicians)
Without this process there’d be no watches as there would be no need to measure time, for only two times would exist night and day.

So it’s not illogical……. No it is entirely logical!

Well that’s probably quite enough of me getting into all philosophical on your sorry arses for now. 😕👍😵‍💫😁
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As in things which are irrational, there is no rule. There are many watches or accessories I regretted not buying— some of which I still wsh I had bought; and some of which I have completely forgotten. How come that’s true for some and not others, no one knows.
And no one knows what happens after a purchase either - why does one keep liking a watch or losing interests in it is quite inexplicable— it just happens. In the end, it may indeed be wise to consider you’ve at least kept your cash.