A walk through time...

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I have been dealing with a difficult issue of late, my father is advancing through dementia and now must live in a secure facility for his safety.

My sister and I must sort through his affairs and manage his long lifetime of possessions. We recently spent an emotional week at his house. For a man who never threw anything away, we sorted through over 80yrs of memorabilia, 1000s of pictures (he was a photographer) and assorted bits and records.

My Great Grandfather Albert built the house for his daughter(my grandmother), by hand, as he was a carpenter. My father moved into the house at her passing. Everything in that house was a time capsule of our family, as my father kept all the generations of possessions as well. It felt like a tidal wave of history, our own included, from childhood to current date with all the craziness of dementia thrown in to add to the disorder of things. A fiercely independent man, we waited until waiting was no longer an option.

We found several jewels that week...

One amazing jewel is shown below, an 1879 model Waltham pocket watch, made in 1883. Sterling case.

Found in a drawer with a note saying it belonged to "James...grandfather"

To me, he was my Great Great Grandfather James, who passed over 100yrs ago.

The second hand started as soon as I turned the winder, and too my surprise several hours later was still running. I wound it every 24hrs and after a few days I measured for accuracy.

+3secs/day....consistently, over several days so far. To be fair I did not carry it but rather let it sit on my desk, but that's pretty darn good running for a watch almost 140yrs old, eh?
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A difficult time, hard on the emotions.

Nice to have that deep family place to give them a home.
 
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@Wryfox my heart goes out to you. I am in the process of moving my mother to a secure ward as we speak. Some how power of attorney got dumped on my as another family member dropped the ball and these decisions must be made but they are heart wrenching. Dementia/Alzheimer’s is such a horrible thing. I was willing to take my mother into my home at the beginning of this snd looking back now she probably would have maintained well for 4-5 years. I was willing to give her an entire floor of my home but my family disagreed now they aren’t to be found. Such a sad illness to watch made worse by heavily restricted visits even though I made sure she got vaccinated and I am myself but I completely understand a place such as that being overly cautious. They had covid breakouts a few times the pass year. Anyway just wanted to say you aren’t alone, great family mementos you picked up I notice certain things will ring a bell to my mother I wonder if those pocket watches might. Good luck on this tough journey.
 
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My great-grandfather's watch is the same model and grade as yours, an 11-jewel William Ellery. Glad yours is running, mine was hacked by so many incompetent watchmakers that it's not worth the time, effort, or expense to fix it. Or I should say, my sister's, since i gave it to her.
 
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@Wryfox I feel wih you!
Concerning the watch, my suggstion is to get it serviced before you continue to let it run. There is no oil anymore and the movement is most probably dirty. So letting it run can cause damages like this:
 
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@Wryfox my heart goes out to you. I am in the process of moving my mother to a secure ward as we speak. Some how power of attorney got dumped on my as another family member dropped the ball and these decisions must be made but they are heart wrenching. Dementia/Alzheimer’s is such a horrible thing. I was willing to take my mother into my home at the beginning of this and looking back now she probably would have maintained well for 4-5 years. I was willing to give her an entire floor of my home but my family disagreed now they aren’t to be found. Such a sad illness to watch made worse by heavily restricted visits even though I made sure she got vaccinated and I am myself but I completely understand a place such as that being overly cautious. They had covid breakouts a few times the pass year. Anyway just wanted to say you aren’t alone, great family mementos you picked up I notice certain things will ring a bell to my mother I wonder if those pocket watches might. Good luck on this tough journey.


Thank You Walrus. There has also been much drama in my situation. Talking with friends its clear no one is ever prepared for this and what it entails. So much more than anyone can imagine if ever faced with it. My father had to deal with the very same situation with his mother and aunt. He told us both multiple times he prayed to never be in the same situation, but now he is. The issue is that EVERYTHING in the house evokes a memory, either by direct remembrance or by a story told by my father or grandmother. Due to necessity, we cannot keep the house, which is sad itself, but we are selling under condition it cannot be razed. Its a beautiful home with French glass doors to every room (who does this? right, a carpenter who builds a house himself). The problem is it's never been renovated. Original oil boiler and radiator steam heat. Post and wire electrical(yikes!). Hand carved gutters that are only now rotting away after 100 years. The list goes on. Charm is the word, but condition is not.

But here's what's strange. I stayed in the house while visiting for that week. I thought it would be creepy as hell to stay in that house alone. But it wasn't. It was incredibly peaceful. Literally when I layed down to sleep the first night a wave of peace fell over me. I hadn't slept that well in a very long time. Same every night after. Rare and wonderful Peace.
 
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Thank You Walrus. There has also been much drama in my situation. Talking with friends its clear no one is ever prepared for this and what it entails. So much more than anyone can imagine if ever faced with it. My father had to deal with the very same situation with his mother and aunt. He told us both multiple times he prayed to never be in the same situation, but now he is. The issue is that EVERYTHING in the house evokes a memory, either by direct remembrance or by a story told by my father or grandmother. Due to necessity, we cannot keep the house, which is sad itself, but we are selling under condition it cannot be razed. Its a beautiful home with French glass doors to every room (who does this? right, a carpenter who builds a house himself). The problem is it's never been renovated. Original oil boiler and radiator steam heat. Post and wire electrical(yikes!). Hand carved gutters that are only now rotting away after 100 years. The list goes on. Charm is the word, but condition is not.

But here's what's strange. I stayed in the house while visiting for that week. I thought it would be creepy as hell to stay in that house alone. But it wasn't. It was incredibly peaceful. Literally when I layed down to sleep the first night a wave of peace fell over me. I hadn't slept that well in a very long time. Same every night after. Rare and wonderful Peace.

Love old houses. If it isn't an intrusion and you feel comfortable, love to see pictures of the house features.

Oil burners can be replaced. Knob and tube is safe if not messed with (insulation with air and not cracked.)

Radiator heat is some of the best.

As a rennovator of our 1890 house, I don't dismiss the challenges. But old houses are wonderful, often quirky and have their own charm. Hopefully you will find a buyer as charmed with its history and family connections. They are out there.
 
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when I layed down to sleep the first night a wave of peace fell over me.
Perhaps your Father's thankful hand.
Hope peace is close for your waking hours too.
 
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Excuse my tangentialnessism for a minute but I’m pondering suffering. Watching someone you love suffer is a deeper level of suffering but it seems suffering itself is universal and unavoidable and has so many varying degrees. Some are born with ailments that provide life long suffering. When I was 10 years old I got hit by a drunk driver, put me in a world of hurt for a while but as I look back I think it was easier to accept at that young age as I hadn’t really factored in that shit like that shouldn’t happen. I love reading theology, I have my own religion that I believe in but I’m no preacher. However reading several books by various religious leaders and theologians of various faiths they kind put some meaning to suffering but usually leave it as “the mystery of suffering” since its universal and unavoidable does it have some intrinsic meaning we can’t grasp at this stage. Well that’s all I have to say on that subject, you can see why I don’t sleep well. Watches are a more concrete appropriate discussion.
 
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Excuse my tangentialnessism for a minute but I’m pondering suffering. Watching someone you love suffer is a deeper level of suffering but it seems suffering itself is universal and unavoidable and has so many varying degrees. Some are born with ailments that provide life long suffering. When I was 10 years old I got hit by a drunk driver, put me in a world of hurt for a while but as I look back I think it was easier to accept at that young age as I hadn’t really factored in that shit like that shouldn’t happen. I love reading theology, I have my own religion that I believe in but I’m no preacher. However reading several books by various religious leaders and theologians of various faiths they kind put some meaning to suffering but usually leave it as “the mystery of suffering” since its universal and unavoidable does it have some intrinsic meaning we can’t grasp at this stage. Well that’s all I have to say on that subject, you can see why I don’t sleep well. Watches are a more concrete appropriate discussion.

I think we all ponder this. Our brain has no nerves and sits in a sealed case. It only receives electrical impulses - the world is a rendered image / what we make of it in our heads. Atoms, electricity, light - what we turn into reality is all a matter of vibrations and waves. And for waves and vibrations to exist there has to be peaks and troughs , highs and lows. So for good things there must be bad things which is a price we pay for the gift of awareness and possibility. I think that builds on interpretations by Alan Watts. Consciousness and time remain a mystery and we are all on a journey I guess. Watches do give some continuity in the crazy cosmos.